Analysis Colleagues Do Not Like Your Three Big Signals

I believe no one will tell you directly: "I hate you", smart people understand the behavior of others, manage their own words and deeds. Here are a few dangerous signals. If you encounter them, they will show you that you are not to be seen, so that professional experts can fight for you.

　　 Signal 1: why don't you know these things?

In the past six months, it is a troubled time for Ray's company. First, it is affected by the economic trend, which leads to the failure of the products to be delivered on time. Then the sales volume drops sharply, leading the sales backbone to switch to his home. Then the executive vice chief and his boss are in disagreement with a large number of people.

When HR looked for Ray's "heart to heart talk", he realized that more than half of his department's colleagues were accepted by the former director of sales. Telephone Invited to compete in the company to drink afternoon tea, talk about offer...... When Ray showed "a face of ignorance", HR was surprised to say, "are you playing the fool or are you really in the dark?" No, your character is so bad. "

It is true that Ray is the "only happy" person, and his colleagues in the Department are reluctant to speak with him more often, even if it is a nonsense.

When you are shielded by all the important information and always in the "wood knowing wood" state, it shows that your colleagues have been bothering you for a long time.

Remedy rule: put a zipper on your mouth.

In the eyes of my colleagues, Ray is a smart man. In this world, there seems to be nothing that he does not understand or do not know; everyone is chatting together, he is like a master who has made mistakes, he will not let slip a small mistake, and he can also tell allusions, which makes others feel embarrassed or unable to stand.

There is an old saying in China, "it is very difficult to be confused". When you interact with others, you sometimes have to pretend to be confused. This is a kind of wisdom and a manifestation of high EQ.

Some people are not intentional, but subconsciously want to arouse the attention of others. They like the feeling of "winning" and often bragging about trivial things that others think is not worth mentioning. If you are the same person, you are advised to learn to give up part of the stage, or to be a listener or an audience, so that others will also be in the limelight.

Ray may also be a "traitor" who does not like to be controlled and directed by nature. He likes to argue with others. He misunderstands others' sharing, guidance and suggestions as challenges to their intelligence and value. If you want to play a unicorn in an empty theater, then continue to maintain the "arrogant" style of action; otherwise, please put a zipper on your mouth.

　　 Signal two: anyone can speak loudly to you. Cry out

Steel is the store manager of a store. Most people do not want to talk to him, especially his managers and directors. That day, he submitted the annual budget late one day, and was severely criticized by the new financial controller of the group in public.

At last week's shop management meeting, he stood at the window of the conference room smoking. When the presiding officer said, "smoke outside the conference room," he hastened to hide the smoke behind him and shouted at someone else: "who smokes in the house... Who is going to smoke out! " At this time, the general manager's secretary shouted to Steel, "say you, get out!"

If anyone can shout at you, it can only mean that you are too lovable and respected.

Remedy rule: compliance with group norms

To be liked, one principle must be followed: accreditation group norms. In many enterprises, what really plays a role is those unwritten rules, which imply what behaviors are recognized and what behaviors are not encouraged by group members.

As a member of the team, you need to master these unwritten rules by direct observation or consultation with others.

A person's position can be granted, but a person's influence and personality charm are made by himself. When your words and deeds are not accepted by most people, your colleagues may drive you out of the team. For example, no one will have lunch with you. No one will call you during team activities. Colleagues will avoid you like escape from the flu.

? when you violate the bottom line of a group, even if you have done your boss, it doesn't mean that you can let others buy your account. Steel is an example. He is good at sticking to the trend, although his boss has helped him to get a kickback, but the insider still ignored him. At this time, it is the right way to get a person with a tail and get forgiveness through positive actions.

　　 Signal three: Encounter Workplace "Cold violence"

Rain is the director of the division. Apart from being responsible for the daily operation and management of flagship stores, he also supervises the operation of 4 stores in Jiangsu and Zhejiang provinces. Rain is a "big mouth monkey". Whenever meeting, it is unavoidable to mention how to be valued before working in the Dong family, and often present the boss's face in front of everyone. When it comes to unhappiness, you can't help throwing up the hat. "No one wants people, no resources, and I don't want the title of director of the division."

At the end of the year, Rain held a meeting of the store manager, asking the staff to submit their business objectives and budget reports for the coming year. I never expected that no one would answer and respond in the end. The whole conference room was plunged into terrible silence.

If your colleagues do not respond to your questions, when you are indifferent to your proposal, you will be exposed to the cold workplace violence of your colleagues.

Remedy rule: make others feel important.

Studies have found that good working relationships can enhance job satisfaction and enthusiasm, and people who are good at work tend to be more loyal to the company.

There are always some people who like to complain that Rain is such a person. Rain is used to criticize all people and things. Therefore, when colleagues realize how to do and how hard they can work, they can not satisfy and recognize them.

Everyone has a simple but luxurious desire in his heart. "Please make me feel important." Therefore, Rain should deal with the "cold violence" practice: try to learn to see the merits of others and speak out loud; try to find out their shortcomings, and genuinely express appreciation to their colleagues: "at some point, I am not as good as you......"

No one is willing to work with a pessimistic and passive person, while a perfectionist is mostly a pessimist. Therefore, you should learn to look at the problem positively. You might as well say to yourself: rather than picking on and complaining, let's do it together!