Three Golden Social Rules Help New Employees

A selfish person is like sitting on the top of a stationary seesaw. Although maintaining the superior position, the whole interpersonal interaction loses its pleasure, and it is a pity for oneself or for the other side. The reciprocity principle of seesaw is an indispensable art for us to get along with colleagues.

1, do not impose on others what you do not want.

To answer this question, we should find out what we do not want in the process of work, that is, what people do not want. Around this question, we have made a comprehensive survey: what is the last thing you want in your work? The answers are: failure, blame, criticism... I believe these two phenomena will not be unfamiliar to most people.

First, company The meeting was arranged for a difficult task, such as the promotion of a new and no market based project. When we need to identify the responsible person, we often find various excuses to prove that we have no time or energy to undertake the task, and recommend others to take charge of this project.

Second, after the problem arises, people always blame each other and shirk their responsibilities in the analysis conference, as if the problem is not related to themselves.

Why do these two phenomena emerge? The reason is simple: no one wants to fail or to blame or criticize. The responsibility for a difficult project is very great, so everyone wants to push this task on to others. Similarly, it is acknowledged that the problem is caused by their own mistakes, so we must face the blame and criticism from our superiors. Whether it is failure, or blame and criticism, is what we do not want, so there is a situation that "we do not want to impose on others".

2, what you want, apply to others.

All aspects of social life are inseparable from speech. How to improve their speaking skills, how to achieve their desired goals by speaking, how to let them speak the right words on different occasions, how to make themselves able to deal well with different people, and so on, have become more and more contemporary people's concerns. The ability to speak can definitely determine the size and speed of a person's achievement. This book quotes a lot of vivid examples from different aspects, and makes a penetrating exposition of the right way to speak, to help you master the knack of speaking and to succeed at an early date.

　　 Praise The first requirement of others is to have a sincere heart and a serious attitude. Words can reflect a person's psychology, so he has no intention or a rash manner of speaking. It is easy to feel unpleasant for others to see through. Secondly, when praising others, you must not tell the difference between one hundred and eight thousand and the fact. For example, when you see a sluggish child with a runny nose, you say to your mother, "your child seems to be very smart." what does the other person feel?

Praise should not only conform to the reality at hand, but also be forward-looking and predictable. Only in this way can the height of your praise be enhanced, so that your praise can stand the scrutiny and the test of time. Some things are relatively stable, such as people's appearance, character, habits, etc., which are easier to praise. Some things are unstable, such as people's behavior, achievements, thoughts, attitudes, etc., if we consider it in the long run, we should be cautious when praising.

3, what people want and apply to others

We all know that we should be kind to others. staff Because the task of the organization is ultimately achieved by them, and he is a comrade in arms with you all the time. You should really think about them, not just some occasional greetings and let them know that you care about them. You should take part in the activities of employees, understand their difficulties, communicate with employees in time, and listen carefully to their opinions. Especially for staff's constructive opinions, we should pay more attention to them and listen carefully. If a good idea can be implemented, no matter how insignificant the employee's advice is, it must be applied. Employees will be exulting because their opinions are adopted. Even if the employee has been blamed for other things, he will be more concerned and respected by you.

You also need to create a good working environment for employees to let them know that you are considerate of them. You have to identify with employees' performance, show appreciation to their employees, and keep a warm expression. A smiling leader always wants to talk to him. Even if you don't ask for anything, your employees will provide information on their own initiative. The influence of your body language, such as posture and attitude, can not be ignored. If you often smile naturally, you will feel comfortable yourself.

"A gentleman asks for himself, and a villain asks all men." Gentlemen are strict with themselves, and villains are very strict with others. It is the spirit of forgiveness that the Chinese tradition advocates, "the broad and the numerous, the able people to have their own ambition and the ability to tolerate others."

Confucius gave the following five external acts of "benevolence, breadth, faith, sensitivity, and benefit". Taking "breadth" as one of the five aspects of "benevolence" is of great help to us in running enterprises.

Some entrepreneurs have big problems in terms of human tolerance. He does not believe in anyone. The following employees do mechanical actions under his command. And you always report, and everything shows that the ideological trend of doing everything must be reported to him. He will always ask you how I don't know this. Why didn't you report to me? Finally, everything that has not been approved by him is wrong, and the following personnel have become rigid and rigid. Blindly attacking others, not allowing others to have a little ideological space, will hurt other people's work enthusiasm.