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The Secret Of Getting Along With A Boss Who Doesn't Laugh

2008/12/16 16:16:00 41894

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If the boss does not laugh and his employees are annoyed, how does "facial expression violence" need to be answered and treated?

　　一個(gè)圓，上面加上兩個(gè)點(diǎn)，下面一條兩頭上翹的曲線，就構(gòu)成了足可傳神的笑臉。在大型超市、酒店，甚至一些大公司，常常可以看到這樣的笑臉卡片，時(shí)刻提醒員工：今天，你微笑了嗎？但也許是因?yàn)檫@樣的笑臉卡片很少擺上老板的案頭，于是涌現(xiàn)出一大批人好、業(yè)績(jī)好，只是笑不好的老板。而老板這看似純屬個(gè)人自由的不笑，卻使辦公室從此“暗無天日”。

　　甚至有專家認(rèn)為：身在職場(chǎng)，那些“擰巴”的五官搭配對(duì)于周圍的同事及伙伴而言，可能正在構(gòu)成一種暴力侵犯。情緒是具有巨大的感染力的，當(dāng)老板總是不笑，傳遞給員工的是一種消極、抑郁或焦慮的情緒，自然會(huì)使員工感到困擾和壓力。雖然，微微一笑需要牽動(dòng)面部13塊肌肉，但是，相對(duì)于同樣需要調(diào)動(dòng)不少面部肌肉的發(fā)怒或皺眉，笑難道真就那么難？

Heavy pressure

The "loss of laughter function"

If today's bosses have "occupational diseases", there is no doubt that they will not laugh.

Some experts have said that as a boss, the pressure is at least ten atmospheres, or even hundreds of atmospheres.

For a boss who is in an "anoxia" state, if you can't squeeze a smile, please let me feel a little bit of your attention.

　　員工自述：拍拍我的肩膀吧

To tell the truth, I hate to see my boss's invariable "smelly face". Our diligence and efforts always seem to be blind.

Every time I see him, I despise and say, "do you laugh if you lose your dignity?"

Of course, this is what I said in my heart.

However, over time, we have a counterplan, that is, when we see him coming, we rush around or pretend to accidentally turn around.

　　一直以來，我對(duì)老板的不笑十分不解。看上去他并非悶葫蘆型，對(duì)大家也決不苛刻，獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)上甚至算是慷慨，基本屬于一個(gè)“三好老板”了。可笑容，絕對(duì)千金難買。據(jù)我們私下里統(tǒng)計(jì)：?jiǎn)T工中至少有80%的人在和人力資源部門溝通時(shí)都提到了這一點(diǎn)，最慘的是人力資源部的總監(jiān)，她對(duì)此也無計(jì)可施。

　　不過，也有不信邪的，我的同事小張就打算和老板較量一把，他的理論是：“他越是這樣，我就是越要干得好給他看看。我的工作這么出色，他憑什么不對(duì)我笑一下？”小張的較量最后也沒什么結(jié)果，雖然工作出色，頻繁地拿紅包，但我也沒見老板對(duì)他笑幾次。還有在我看來已修煉到頂級(jí)的同事，對(duì)老板的臉色陰晴與否已經(jīng)做到可以完全視而不見了。

But no matter how I react, I understand that everyone in the heart really wants his boss to talk to himself once, even if he pats his shoulder, it is also an encouragement.

But at least for the time being, this is still a fantasy. This year's year-end meeting is not attended by the boss, let alone communicate with employees.

If he hadn't been a good man, many people would have left long ago.

The boss said:

pressure

Let me forget to laugh!

Indeed, the director of human resources has told me many times about my no laughing matter.

But I just couldn't laugh.

We are a private enterprise, built by me 10 years ago. Although it has been very successful now, the hardships experienced are not ordinary employees' feelings.

I used to believe others very much, but I almost lost my life.

Since then, I have become increasingly understated, and trust is the most important prerequisite for choosing partners.

So now, in my company, the good guys are not lacking at all, but there are not many capable people. The pressure is almost on me.

Over the years, I often want to have a very good middle class to help me out. I am too tired.

But in my mind, safety is the foundation. In the end, I choose some friends, family members or classmates who have been friends for many years to help do some supplementary work.

I am very busy, tired and annoying all day. Now I forget how to laugh.

Besides, in this way, we can set up our own dignity. What's wrong with it?

Besides, I have always been treated with a higher level of treatment. In their view, this should be the most important.

Besides, when employees see me around most of the time, I pretend not to see it, so as to avoid embarrassment.

　　“天生不會(huì)笑”的尷尬

Young people who do not like to laugh are often called "cool", which is a manifestation of charm.

But as a boss, "do not like to laugh" will become a distance. It is a kind of "cold feet" that is "a thousand miles away."

For a boss who is naturally not smiling, please do not stingy except for facial expressions.

　　員工自述：只見外冷，不見內(nèi)心熱

Actually, mine.

Boss

I didn't laugh at all. Just last month, I found that he was secretly changing himself. For example, he often walked around in his office and smiled to whom he said a few words, probably because the voice of the crowd was too loud.

But to tell the truth, he used to look at his expressionless face, but felt that his smiling face was even more difficult to look at.

And most of the time, it seems that there is nothing to say. Sometimes, when I look back, I can't help watching him stand behind him.

He himself certainly felt that the effect was not good, or he could not insist on it. This condition only returned to normal in less than two weeks.

The boss is really capable, everyone in the unit admits.

Under his management, at least in the same industry, this unit is an excellent category with good reputation.

Although the treatment is not very high, the pressure of work is also great, but it can be very good to exercise.

When I first came, I went to work every morning.

But it wasn't long before I noticed that the sky above the office seemed to be clouded forever.

The faces of the colleagues were tight and they did not know what others were doing, or even worked hard for a few days until they discovered that other colleagues had already done it.

It is very surprising that someone has resigned and never sent a farewell party.

The death of a rabbit makes people feel cool.

And the boss is not absent, is a person stuffy in his office, although often also with everyone to hold a meeting, but want to get a few words of praise from him, can say: no way.

　　再往后，我開始每天早晨醒來，總會(huì)感覺莫名地?zé)┰炅恕Ｊ煜に睦蠁T工告訴我，他是個(gè)外冷內(nèi)熱的人。但問題在于：我只看到他外面的冷，可看不到他內(nèi)心的熱啊。

　　老板自述：我天生就不會(huì)笑

　　其實(shí)我老早就知道同事們對(duì)我的“不笑”，意見很大。眼看著一個(gè)個(gè)鮮活的新人變得謹(jǐn)小慎微，我比他們還納悶兒。前幾天我出差回來后沒回家，直接去了單位。發(fā)現(xiàn)辦公室里喜氣洋洋，大家有說有笑，手里都還干著活，但他們看到我，立刻變得鴉雀無聲。

I was particularly embarrassed at that time.

In fact, I do not mind at all if everyone chatted with each other at work time. The working efficiency is not pressed by hard pressure.

But I don't know why. Even though I try to stay in my office, I can't directly see them, but as long as I sit down, it feels like nothing.

I felt rather defeated in my heart, and I always called the names of the meetings, and I doubted whether they were sincere.

Later, I started a small meeting, putting fruit on the table, making the appearance of the tea party, but still not.

In addition to a few old staff's initiative to speak, others are still very cautious.

　　我知道很大程度是因?yàn)槲也恍υ斐傻模业男愿窬褪沁@樣，比較內(nèi)向，工作這些年已經(jīng)好了很多，可還是不常笑。整天時(shí)刻提醒自己要笑也挺累的，再說工作這么忙，我也常常沒耐心就忽略了。可是，我特別不明白，笑并不是表達(dá)感情的惟一方式，為什么會(huì)造成這么強(qiáng)烈的效果，難道除了學(xué)會(huì)笑，我就沒別的辦法了嗎？

Editor: vivi