How Do Modern People Develop Self-Confidence?

　　 1. culture patience

Self confidence really needs to be cultivated. The so-called "cultivation" means that it is not always possible. Therefore, the most important prerequisite for developing self-confidence is patience. If patience is lacking, patience should be cultivated. Without patience, nothing can be done, let alone confidence. Achievements can be accompanied by confidence growth.

　 2. acquire and master one skill.

Have learning ability People are usually very confident, and conversely, people who really believe in themselves usually believe in their learning abilities. So when faced with challenges, they will not be afraid or guilty, because they know that they can't learn at all. The basis of self-study is patience, and acquiring any skill will make people more aware of the importance of patience, and at the same time be more confident because of patience and learning ability. As long as we spend time really mastering a skill, it will be easier to learn other skills. This is a virtuous circle.

　 3. believe accumulation Power

A bigger stone can not stop the seeds from sprouting, but because the seeds begin to germinate, the cell division is not fast but it never ends. Everyone knows what dripping can wear stone, but it seems that no one believes it. People at the starting point are like a cell or a drop of water, but most people misunderstand or wish that they are strong and sharp at the beginning, just like a laser beam, but this is not realistic. We must cultivate patience through learning, and use patience to wait for the unimaginable benefits and strength that can be gained after long accumulation.

4. understand your limitations.

No one can do anything. Even those who have really strong learning abilities can not do anything - because time is not enough. Some areas really need talent. There is no shame in inferiority in the place where you are really not good at it. When inferiority is not self abased, there is more psychological burden - and it is still a burden that will never get rid of. Eventually, it will surely drag self-confidence. It is easy to be confident when everything is done well, and it is hard to be confident when it is not well done. But before going to battle, how far can it go by carrying one load after another? How good can it be?

　　 5. everything must be done in advance.

Speaking loudly or formally can only make a person appear "confident" rather than "real confident". "Sitting in the first row" may be due to nearsightedness. "Fast walking" is often due to a weak sense of time. Do anything ahead of time and do your homework ahead of time. Self confidence does not mean self righteous. Self righteous people will eventually be smashed by reality. The Chinese say, "God disposes, and plans for men". Westerners say, "God's return to God, Kaiser's return to Kaiser" is one thing at a certain level: ignore luck (when it comes, it will come naturally), the important thing is to concentrate on doing homework well.

6. pay attention to details.

As the saying goes, "experts watch the door, the amateur sees excitement". When we pay attention to one thing for a long time, we will find ourselves as "open the eyes". We can see more and more clearly. We must remain focused on what we must do; we must not only concentrate but also concentrate on it for a long time. Only in this way can we have the ability to see more details and have the ability to do enough homework. In many cases, the so-called "success" is only an intermediate state, and "greater success" is the challenge. People who ignore details are not intentional, just because Kung Fu is not yet there.

　　 7. cultivate a calm attitude.

Walk slowly, your posture is natural and calm; speak slowly, and your voice will be small enough for others to be clear. But these are forms. The key is slow brain. Too fast action is often due to slow brain, so it is too thoughtful and too thoughtful. People who have experience in speaking know that speaking too fast is actually more likely because of nervousness. The more capable people are, the easier it is to be calm, because their abilities are enough to enable them to take control of the situation. Calm is not able to imitate, is raised by strength.

　 8., care for the people around you.

Everyone needs the support and care of the people around him, just as the people around him need his support and concern. Contrary to many people's belief, too many friends may not be a good thing. Because it takes time to care for a person to support a person, and the ultimate limit for every insurmountable person is only one thing - time. Choose your friends carefully because you will share your life with them. Without such an attitude, there would be no real friends. Those who have 32 real friends will be more confident.

　 9. don't pursue perfection easily.

Perfection is always good, but it can't always be done. There is only one end to the pursuit of perfection: the standard is getting lower and lower. Such examples are everywhere, and many Saint men and daughters are left. It is a rare wisdom to learn to live imperfectly in this imperfect world. A deep understanding of "imperfect is the normal" talent may achieve "no inferiority complex". With patience, trust accumulation and normal IQ, even if we can't do the best, we can do better. Why should we push too hard?

　　 10. try to be independent and take the necessary responsibilities.

A philosopher said this: "a person's happiness depends on how far he can be independent of the world". This sentence contains profound wisdom. In many cases, independence means complete commitment to the necessary responsibilities; those who can use their abilities to shoulder the necessary responsibilities are necessarily more confident. A person can not be independent, often will become a burden on others, no one does not hate the burden, and how can the disliked person be confident? Confident people know a simple truth, they are themselves, others are others, their own things are done by themselves, their own responsibility for their own commitments.